I've got a fun question for you to consider today:
What if the people you feel most jealous of, who have what you want and are doing similar work in the world, are actually part of your soul family?
What if you’re on the same team, and here to uplift the world in complementary ways?
I invite you to consider this perspective the next time jealousy creeps in (which it will, because you're only human after all!).
There is truly no upside to comparing ourselves — especially to those who are on a similar path and wavelength.
The ego thinks in terms of lack and competition.
It’s wired for survival and wants to make sure there’s enough to go around.
Meanwhile, your soul is craving the very connection you deny it when you view people on similar paths as taking opportunities away from you.
These people aren’t your competition.
These people are your teammates.
Your collaborators.
Your co-conspirators in this lifetime.
You’re here to work your magic together, whether you ever physically cross paths or not.
I know shifting out of comparison mode can feel easier said than done.
I used to feel a pang of jealously whenever I’d see someone doing similar work, and (in my eyes) doing it more “successfully” than me.
Here's the 3-step process I use to shift out of that headspace, and drop back into my heart:
Step 1: Acknowledge what you’re jealous of, because it's indicating something that you want. At the very least, it’s helpful to have that clarity.
Step 2: Work on believing you can have it. Jealousy shows up when we want something yet don't currently believe it's possible for us to have too. But remember: you wouldn’t have this desire if you didn’t also have the ability to bring it to life.
Step 3: Look for your common ground with the person you’re currently jealous of. See her light, her passion, whatever you can find in her that strikes a chord in you too. View her as your soul sister, your supporter, and someone who gets you at your core.
I promise this feels way better.
Give it a try and you'll see what I mean :)
To less jealousy & more joy,
P.S. One of my all-time favorite quotes (by Theodore Roosevelt) is "Comparison is the thief of joy." Isn't it true?? In my experience, the answer is a resounding YES. Nothing sucks the fun out of your day like some compare-and-despair Instagram scrolling.
If you're ready to spend less time in your own head, questioning and comparing and feeling like a fraud (amongst other delightful joy drainers), I can help you reclaim all of that beautiful brain space to focus on the people and projects that make your heart happy.
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